Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Many women I know need to hear what Kristin Armstrong has to say about confidence.

I am embarrassed to say that for many years I confused confidence with arrogance.

The first thing I learned about confidence was that I did not possess it.

And how, exactly, do we learn how to be good enough? ...step one in learning to be good enough takes place the moment you let go of trying to be perfect. Being good enough means letting go of expectations (of ourselves and those placed upon us by others), and focusing on the areas in which we truly do have something to offer. When we try to be and do the things that are outside our true selves, we turn into strivers. Strivers are people who endlessly struggle for perfection and end up with far less than good enough.

Confidence is not about who you are; it's about whose you are.

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Smilingsal said...

Women more so than men generally have low self-esteem.

Anonymous said...

Hard to have confidence when you are criticed by even your close family relatives-- you then grow to feel you are expected to be perfect. Guess oldest daughters/neice being told they should know better and not having an older sister/cousin to learn by have low self esteem-- kind of came with the territory.
Does not help that society thinks women should "look" a certain way!
Thanks for your blogging on the subject.